This week’s Sunday Reflections will be based on a quote from Brené Brown’s book “Rising Strong”. I found out about this book while listening to Crystal Paine’s Periscope broadcast a couple of weeks ago and felt really inspired to read it. I haven’t read the previous two books, but I’ll make sure I do that as well after I finish this one.
I’ll write more about the book in a separate post when I’m done reading it, but for today, I would like to focus on something that caught my attention yesterday evening, right before I went to bed:
Do we want to write our story or do we want to hand that power over to someone else? This quote spoke to my heart, because I’ve felt outside of my story for quite some time. I’ve lived my life, and I can’t even say that I’ve been unhappy (on the contrary – I’ve been and still am very happy and grateful for some of the things that have happened to me), but there were so many times when I’ve felt exterior to all that was happening around me. I’ve felt like I’m living someone else’s life – a life I’m not passionate about; a life that often brought me pain and anger without ever making up for it.
I guess at some point in our lives, we’ve all fallen into a path that leads us nowhere or at least – nowhere we would really like to go. Day after day pass by, month after month, and maybe even year after year with no significant changes to improve our situation. Has it happened to you to catch yourself complaining about something more than once? Much more than once? It’s just so easy to blame the circumstances without doing anything to change them. And I’ve been guilty of that far too many times.
To write our story means to become aware of our thoughts, feelings, actions and fears. It means to start understanding ourselves before expecting others to do it. I know how much courage it may take sometimes to look in the mirror with open eyes and I know how much it can hurt admitting that we’re wrong, but by doing so, by honestly analyzing the way we react and interact with others, is the only way to take hold of our story. It’s the only way to lead this story in the direction we would like it to go.
To write our story means to embrace it with all its good and bad sides, with all its successes and failures, with all its truths and lies. Sometimes we tend to alter certain situations that aren’t to our liking, forcing ourselves to believe we’re right and that it’s better that way, but if we take the time for a deeper look, we might reach into depths that we never thought existed. Those depths will reveal the true meaning of our reactions and feelings and will help us to get to know ourselves better.
To write our story means to create it – to connect the dots, as Brené Brown puts it. All our experiences are just small dots in our personal map of life, which when connected, allow it to guide our way towards a future that we feel proud of – a future that we wrote ourselves.
Do you feel an author of your life? What is the most difficult thing for you to overcome when analyzing your actions and feelings? Share with us in the comments below.